September 18, 2013
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Dating/Singles, Family, For Men only, For Women Only, Sex, What's really happening?
Tags: atractive, awareness, Communication, contradictions in a relationship, Reasponsibility, relationship advice, relationship repair
attractive |əˈtraktiv| adjective • pleasing or appealing to the senses • appealing to look at; sexually alluring *** How important is it in a relationship that one is attractive? I’d say VERY important. But, what does it really mean – beyond the dictionary definition – to be attractive? My observations have convinced me (I am […]
Love impacts our interactions with both our friends and strangers, as well as influencing our decisions about what we share, do, and say. It effects our perspective towards new information, and our tolerance for differences.
I found this recently surfing the internet. It is old (2008) but still very pertinent, like The Relationship Saver, which is btw 9 years old this month: “Save Your Relationship Since the Month of Love, FEBRUARY is coming up here is another thing I should share with you. I ran into something I found for a […]
Being nice is not the same as merely being polite. Your parents can teach you to be polite, but being nice is your personal trait and cannot be taught, but it may be developed. Closeness and intimacy in a relationship is created and allowed by “niceness”.
April 8, 2013
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, How to
Tags: blind spots, Creating love, How to love, integrity, love, Possibility, relationship advice, relationship games, relationship help, relationship repair, responsibility
I know you think that love is a set of emotions and moods and thoughts and attitudes and outlooks and feelings. And I’m inviting you to consider the possibility that, that simply is one interpretation, not one with which you are stuck.
March 1, 2013
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Communication, How to, Marriage, What Am I Doing Wrong?, What's really happening?
Tags: action / reaction, argument, being right, being wrong, blind spots, Communication, Disagreements, ego, relationship advice, relationship help
Our culture is built for winners. Everyone else is a loser. Whose aim in life is to be a loser? Not me, certainly, and I personally don’t know of anyone who has. So, what do we do in the game of winning? We try to be right as much as we possibly can. Even if […]
June 29, 2012
Posted by: Radomir
Category: For Women Only, How to
Tags: awareness, blind spots, Communication, contradictions in a relationship, Disagreements, marriage problems, relationship advice, relationship basics, relationship games, relationship help
If you want to perpetuate the attraction in your relationship, keep the gap between femininity and masculinity as wide as possible. If a woman adopts too many male characteristics and a man vice versa, the roles may reverse, attraction will evaporate to be replaced by either conflict or indifference. No one relishes the prospects of this happening.
A relationship is better viewed as a verb rather than a noun.
Can we make ourselves be in love, or even better, can we make others fall in love with us?
February 11, 2012
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, For Women Only, How to
Tags: action / reaction, argue, awareness, blind spots, happiness, relationship advice, Valentine's Day
Unfulfilled Expectations. They just pop up everywhere, in all places, at all times; not just in romance. They do tend to stand out more on Valentine’s Day.
Change is a very popular topic. You either want it, don’t want it, or it is forced upon you. In any case, change is inevitable. How effectively to deal with it is the question.
In order to alleviate our suffering we engage in a blame game, e.g. name-calling.
January 5, 2012
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, How to, Marriage
Tags: awareness, being right, being wrong, blind spots, Communication, Disagreements, marriage problems, relationship advice
We tend to be less critical of evidence that supports our beliefs than evidence that runs counter to our beliefs. In an interesting experiment that demonstrates this phenomenon, researchers presented individuals with mixed evidence on the effectiveness of capital punishment on reducing crime.
Your personal boundary marks the line between what you control and what you don’t. Solving problems begins with the creation and familiarity with a healthy, mature and integrated personal emotional boundary.
September 29, 2011
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, How to, Marriage, Uncategorized
Tags: argument, awareness, being right, being wrong, blind spots, racket, relationship help
We explain the rationale behind our complaints to interested (and uninterested) parties, and point out how pleased we are with ourselves for taking the necessary steps to sort things out—we have a certain fondness for our attempts, for “trying.”
One of the main strategies for repairing your relationship that I mention in The Relationship Saver is that you must ALWAYS agree with your partner. This statement may cause you to immediately reject my suggestion, mainly for the reason of pride and self-respect.
In the past, when people lived in extended families separations and divorces were rare. The couple’s family felt responsible for their relationship.
Vulnerability is one of those dreaded words. Sometimes we’d rather die than allow ourselves to be vulnerable in our relationships.
Men and women are programmed differently the way they process their feelings.…. One of the major gender differences in the realm of feelings is that women are feeling creatures and men are rational creatures.
October 20, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, Marriage
Tags: action / reaction, awareness, being right, being wrong, blind spots, Communication, contradictions in a relationship, Disagreements, ego, relationship help, relationship saver, victim
No-one-tells-me-what-to-do attitude is perfectly normal for teenagers anywhere.
… each of us possesses a set of biological ‘switches’ for our emotions. These switches are entirely automatic and they are universal. They are often referred to as the Affect System. How might this serve us when faced with an enraged, screaming, threatening …
In prosperous western cultures divorces are sky-rocketing while in poorer societies families are far more stable. What are the reasons for this phenomenon and what has that got to do with us? Do I have to become poor in order to have a happy relationship, you may ask. Not really, but on the other hand, you may have no choice.
August 10, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, How to, Marriage
Tags: action / reaction, argument, awareness, being wrong, Communication, contradictions in a relationship, Disagreements, responsibility, women v.s. men
The more I learn about differences between men and women (or I should rather say feminine and masculine) the more I discover the causes of misunderstanding and miscommunications that that are pervasive in man/woman relationships.
August 10, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, For Men only, How to, Marriage, Sex
Tags: awareness, blind spots, Communication, contradictions in a relationship, Disagreements, happiness, relationship games, women v.s. men
Too often we forget that we are dealing with a “different species” i.e. female Homo Sapiens and by default, if we want to be nice, we treat them the way we want to be treated.
June 30, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Communication, Marriage, Uncategorized
Tags: awareness, blind spots, change, coaching, Communication, Disagreements, relationship advice, relationship help, relationship management
We think that we should know how to manage our relationships and thus are very resistant to looking for help until it is often too late.
lust |ləst| noun very strong sexual desire : he knew that his lust for her had returned. • [in sing. ] a passionate desire for something : a lust for power. • (usu. lusts) chiefly Theology a sensual appetite regarded as sinful : lusts of the flesh. Yes, of course, we all know the difference. We talk […]
“To achieve excellence, you must .….”
June 2, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Marriage
Tags: being in love, blind spots, contradictions in a relationship, fear, love, relationship basics, relationship help, relationship repair, transformation
We think that somehow that feeling of love or a loving feeling should always be present and only then we would know that our relationship is OK. When a relationship is breaking up there seems to be a simultaneous loss of love, or loss of love precedes the break up.
When it comes to your attitude towards your marriage, do you see it as a relationship between two separate people that have come together to share life, or do you see yourselves as a family and parts of the family.
May 11, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Marriage
Tags: awareness, blind spots, choice, Disagreements, empowerment, marriage problems, reality, Reasponsibility, relationship games
Whether your relationship is going well or not you can always think back to the outset of the relationship and, if you are able to look at those beginnings with an open mind and objectively, you can always say, I told you so. Or at least your parents, relatives or friends could say it.
So, how is it that we are so knowledgeable yet cannot improve relationships, no matter what? The best example is overweight people who want to lose weight. Most of them know exactly HOW to do it. The same applies to relationships. We often know how to do it, yet we do nothing about it. And therein lies the problem.
April 29, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Communication, For Men only, Uncategorized
Tags: action / reaction, attraction, blind spots, For Men only, relationship games, relationship saver, responsibility, sexually attractive, women v.s. men
Here we will address one of the very characteristic modus operandi underlying women’s behavior, which men in their simplicity cannot even fathom, let alone thoroughly understand.
April 22, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Communication, Marriage, Sex, Uncategorized
Tags: argument, attraction, awareness, Communication, contradictions in a relationship, gender equality, Relationship, relationship problems
The question I have for you is this: can a man and a woman be equal, and what are the conditions and rules of behavior given that men and women are so very different?
Often we are blind to the fact that our opinions are just that, and although they may appear as facts to us, they are just “our” truths and not THE truths. The first step in dissolving a conflict of this nature is to start owning our opinions.
Hope is always associated with the future. We hope that things will change, that or our perception of the situation is wrong, that it is only a temporary thing that will pass as soon as circumstances change.
April 3, 2010
Posted by: Radomir
Category: Awareness, Marriage
Tags: awareness, being whole and complete, cheating, contradictions in a relationship, ego, happiness, humility, integrity, marriage problems, success
Two things happened to Sandra Bullock this month. First, she won an Academy Award for best actress. Then came the news reports claiming that her husband is an adulterous jerk. So the philosophic question of the day is: Would you take that as a deal? Would you exchange a tremendous professional triumph for a severe personal blow?
Also, it seems that some people are able to ignore or transcend how things show up for them. I’ve observed a few people who seem to be successful financially, in their careers, and in other aspects of their lives who still have a bunch of negative self-esteem beliefs.
In charged situations most of us assume that we see things as they are; that is not so. We actually see things as they appear to us. Check out for yourself. When was the last time that you met an “idiot” who thought exactly like you do?